Resolutions worth working on (and things to walk away from) in the New Year

January was named after the Roman god Janus, a man with two faces. One looked backward while the other looked forward. A New Year provides a valuable opportunity to reflect on the past while anticipating the future. It also gives us an opportunity to let go of some old things so we can reach for some new things.

In this new year walk away from:

1.    Devaluing yourself

Let go of those moments when you feel you are not valuable, when you think you are not worth it, and when you see yourself as unlovable. Let go of devaluing your worth and authentically love yourself. Give yourself the self-care that you both need and deserve.

2.    Self-Doubt

Self-doubt did not serve you well in the past and will definitely not serve you any better in the future. We have all heard that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent, and so when you constantly doubt and question yourself, you are giving consent to the feelings of inferiority. Let go of self-doubt.

3.    Disempowerment

Being disempowered is a choice we make. No one gives you personal power. You need to reach out and own it. Let go of the beliefs, thoughts, feelings, words and relationships which leave you feeling disempowered.

4.    Guilt

Guilt is a destructive emotion which often leads to repeating of the same mistakes that caused our feelings of guilt in the first place. Forgive yourself. Be gentle. Acknowledge your mistakes but let go of the guilt. We cannot change what is already done but can change our actions and reactions going forward.

5.    Blame

Blame is an unproductive emotion. It takes our focus away from the things we can influence, and puts it squarely on the things we cannot. Spending valuable feelings on those things and people we cannot control is emotionally inefficient. Let go of blame and the things we are unable to change.

6.    Fear

Fear is commonly defined as the opposite of faith. Faith is the belief something good will happen while fear is the belief something bad will happen. Fear can be powerful because it yields the same power and results that faith attracts in the positive, fear attracts in the negative. 

7.    Worry

Worry is a drain on our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. There is no effectiveness added through worry, stress and anxiety. Learn the value of your breath, don’t bother with inconsequential things, let go and leave worry behind. 

8.    Anger

Though anger is often justified, in the long-term, it does not serve you well. A few tactics for dealing with this emotion is to be angry and then get through it. Move on. Don’t suppress anger but feel it fully, and then let it go. Work on not holding on to your anger.

9.    Regret

Regret is a painful way to live life. Learn what you need to from the things you regret and then let them go. Devaluing yourself is not conducive to self-care. We have no time to dwell on regrets.

10.    Comparison

Comparison can only lead to one of two outcomes. You either inflate or deflate yourself when comparing to others. Neither of these serves you. Simply be yourself. Fully embrace yourself. Love yourself. You are unique, celebrate it.

11.    Procrastination

Never put off for a single day what can be done today. Time is precious. Use every moment as if it counts because it does! The problem is we often develop patterns of doing this sort of thing for years. 

12.    Laziness

While procrastination involves putting things off, laziness is simply not doing them. If there is a dream, goal, aspiration or task you need to do simply get it done!

13.    Never enough

This is a mindset that says you will never be enough, or make enough, or have enough. These thought patterns often end up creating that reality in our lives. Love yourself in the whole and complete state you are.
 
And instead reach for:

1.    Purpose

The meaning of life is to find your gift; the purpose of life is to give it away – Pablo Picasso. A life filled with purpose is happy, healthy and powerful. We all have a unique purpose. Find it, live it.

2.    Power

You are brilliant, inspiring, and powerful. You have a voice. Own it. Use it. Shape the lives of others. 

3.    Potential

Allow your possibilities to become your realities, your theories to become your practice and your potential to become your actuality.

4.    Passion

Time is precious, live your passion NOW!

5.    Physical Wellbeing

Your body is the tool given you to fulfill your purpose. We all have unique physical challenges and it is important to take responsibility for your physical health. It is up to you to ensure you do the best you can with the physical tools you have. Take charge of your wellbeing rather than leaving it in the hands of others. 

6.    Productivity

Productivity is often what takes average and makes it great. Slight adjustments and small tweaks in your daily habits can make huge differences. 

7.    Paycheck

We owe it to ourselves to produce our own wealth. Don’t undervalue your worth. Step out of       your box, be entrepreneurial and take risks.

8.    Purge

Let go of everything, and everyone, who will hold you back and do not support you as you move forward. Purging can be painful and difficult, but it can also be liberating and empowering. Don’t let the same things continually slow you down.

9.    Positivity

The single greatest thing you can do for your emotional health is to make daily choices and incorporate daily practices that keep you positive and optimistic. Grab on, don’t let go.

10.    Perseverance

Resilience is key. Hang in there and don’t give up. Keep on keeping on. Your dreams matter.

11.    Patience

Be patient with yourself, with others, with circumstances and with the universe.

12.    Peace

Peace protects us and guides us. Find your peace and do what it takes to maintain it. It matters.

The New Year should afford us the opportunity to grow, strengthen, improve and set ourselves up for success. Embrace the opportunity to reflect on where you’ve come from, and where you want to be – then grab on, live the life you’ve always dreamed of.

For more ideas for bringing in the New Year read this post. Happy 2016!

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